Many books have been written about attempting to change oneself, and I have read more than my fair share. Over time, I have come to realize that it is possible for a person to change. I believe this because I have changed.
When I was a young mother, and because of my perfectionistic tendencies, I read through and thought through many parenting approaches. At the time, I believed an authoritarian parenting style was what I needed to embrace.
As I aged and was confronted by some of the fallout in my children’s lives from this style of parenting, I was heartbroken. I realized that I had not shown my own flesh and blood the same grace that God had shown me over and over again.
I changed my mind, and that led to changes in my behavior that could be seen by others. I told my children I had been wrong to be so harsh with them at times and asked for their forgiveness.
I believe that real change (that we each have the ability to feel on the inside and others can see from the outside) begins by changing our mind. We have to be convinced from within that we were wrong, have a deep sorrow and ask God (and those we have wronged) to forgive us. I think that is what the Bible calls repentance.
At least, that’s how I see it.