I was minding my own business this week when I was dumbstruck by a post on the blog Money Saving Mom. Crystal was sharing about what books she had been reading lately and was doing a brief review of a new book by Mark Batterson, “If: Trading Your If Only Regrets for God’s What If Possibilities”. The quote from this book that she shared (on Instagram) was
“The more you care about what people think, the less you care about them”.
I had to stop and digest that. Often, I have said to my children that they should be true to themselves, and not care so much what others think. I have viewed worrying about what others think as a self-esteem issue, not as a selfish act.
After thinking Mark Batterson’s quote through, I’ve come to the conclusion that caring about what people think can represent a type of self-absorption. I realized that caring about what someone thinks is not the same as caring about THEM.
All this has brought to mind the verse,
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves”. Phillippians 2:3
As the Apostle Paul taught, we need to value others, caring deeply for them. Personally, I need to be careful not to be so self-conscious that I only have the ability to care about what people think instead of genuinely caring about their well being.
May God bless.