In Proverbs (24:3), King Solomon wrote: “Through wisdom, a house is built and through understanding, it is established.” Making wise decisions as a married couple is a key component in allowing your home to be life-giving and not draining. It is so incredibly important that both spouses, individually and together, make every effort to do the wise thing. Repeatedly.
God states that if we ask for wisdom, he will give it. (James 1:5) What a game changer that can be when we are at wit’s end and then suddenly we experience clarity. Your mind felt muddled, and now it does not.
An aid in growing in wisdom and experiencing more clarity in your decision making is to become more others-oriented. Let me explain why I think this.
If you desire what you want personally, more than you desire what is best, then you are not going to make good decisions, only self-absorbed ones. Self-absorbed decisions reflect a desire for personal gain, not wisdom.
Some feel the compulsion to seek personal gain and their whole life is about gaining or losing what they feel they must have at the present moment. It is no surprise that their decision making either immediately, or at some point, looks so foolish. Foolishness is the antithesis of wisdom.
Simply put, you can not chase hedonistic impulses and act wisely at the same time. God’s economy simply doesn’t allow for it.
At least, that’s how I see it.
May God bless.